“There is only one thing in the world that is worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about”. Oscar Wilde

Let’s get talked about, debated about, and envied:

1.Find out what makes you tick – really tick and get ticking

2. Always go your own wildest route – the average route is for average people

3. Know that no-one needs to understand you – as long as you understand yourself

4. Own at least 5 pieces of impossibly chic Lanvin pieces in your wardrobe and wear them for no reason

5. Don’t share your plans with all your friends – surprise them. If they celebrate you – they’ll celebrate your spontaneity

6. Always wear red lipstick and heels to the grocery store – it’s fun when the saggy-sweatpant moms stare at you with envy

7. Only be envied by strangers – if your friends envy you, drop them immediately if not sooner

8. Never pretend to know things you don’t know about – but know really well what you do know

9. Make a wicked youtube video and don’t tell anyone about it (it’s fun to have a secret that makes you laugh inside during boring business meetings)

10. Enjoy the fact that not everyone likes you – you don’t want to be mainstream

Love,

Moi

Once you’ve figured out who your fashion icons are, what your essential wardrobe pieces are, and worked on your confidence – you’re well on your way. But you’re not there yet. The most important element to complete you as a stylish confident woman is self-love. True self-love emanates kindness. Kindness is powerful. Stripping down the ego, the first step on the way to self-love, can be a long process. Recognizing the need to strip away the ego is the key to start. Once you start, you will only want more – and so will everyone around you.

Women who lack self-love have a limited amount of love to give. When you can’t give love and support to others, everything you give is a bit tight and you come off as bitchy. The biggest reward for freeing yourself of your ego is humbleness. Being humble is being kind. Review yourself – what’s not to love? Once you fall in love with yourself, the world will also. Humbleness, kindness and self-love are part of the completed groundwork toward becoming the fabulous woman you have in you. (These are qualities that you secretly hated in other women before you had them). Stop hating and start loving – you got it all, you just need to see it and believe it. Adoring oneself is so ridiculously contagious and so fabulously fun that you’ll never go back to your small tight world of resentment…

All you need is love.
Love will give you confidence.
Confidence will define your style.
Your style is what you reflect, all the way around.

The End

Who Are You (step 1)?

Who Are You (Step 2)?

Be aware that Facebook can easily rob you of your time and intelligence. You really have to have an agenda before logging on because there are some odd games that are trying to steal your time, like seeing who looks like you in Hollywood, or who your best friend is that week. Don’t fall for them. My biggest letdowns are people’s comments such as, “woke up cranky”, “eating a burrito”, “my child lost a tooth and said something ‘smart’ ”. I feel robbed of my time because I can’t just ignore them. I have to stop and wonder if the world is run by D-students, or if people are just dying for attention. I mean, really, this is what it has come down to? These are the messages we need to share with the world? Should I just let it go and realize that everyone deserves a voice out there?

As fabulous and paperless as this social media can be, and is, to post a link on all your friends’ pages to a show you are working on, sell a sweater you are knitting, or list an archive of work on your former professor’s Facebook page. I do, however, miss the old world of personal notes, cutout articles in the mail, and smelling real letters that have traveled across the ocean. Just imagine pulling an Oscar Wilde by mailing original written material, along with a personal note to a contact of importance saying, “I send you two magazines with contributions of mine which perhaps you might like to reprint, or notice; they are quite at your disposal”. (“Disposal” means recycle today).

Thank you for being a friend…